I wrote yesterday's blog about things we girls wish guys knew. I have had some interesting conversations and emails surrounding the post, so I've decided that another one along the same lines is just fine... and perhaps needed. Here goes!
- When we work out and lose weight, get a hair cut, or make any kind of change in our physical appearance, it's a big deal. We work hard to look good (however I'll give you that there's debate on who we look go to impress - men or other women...), and I never expect the guy I'm dating to notice. However, if I point out that I've got different colored hair, please respond appropriately. You don't have to over-react, but just confirm that we look great. That's all we want.
- Beginning a relationship is scary, no matter if you're the guy or the girl. Most of us girls are pretty easy to impress (society certainly has digressed in what men had to do to get the attention of a girl - can we say slaying a dragon or riding to our house on a lawn mower to play a song under our window?). But you wearing a muscle shirt won't do it. Get yourself in a suit and wine and dine us - it's fun!
- That being said, money doesn't make the man. So you don't have a 401(k). So you only have $4.01. We don't care. Make the most of your personality and humor, and we're set! There are tons of websites to get ideas on how to date on a budget. Check them out - most places will list free things to do in your town in the paper. Check out a local gallery opening, walk the local shops, and make up stories about the people you see... Tons of fun and doesn't cost a cent!
- Make us laugh. It'll get you everywhere! And laugh at me - I'm a big girl and tend to beat you to it, but you should join me! (Fair warning, not all girls are like this... Tread carefully at first, but once something happens and she laughs, join her!)
- Take care of us! Whether you clean my car, fill it with gas, help me move, find a classic movie on DVD I've been looking for forever, or just shoot me a text that lets me know you're thinking about me. Amazing the power in the 15 seconds it takes to send a short message!
- Be nice (need I explain?),
- and when you're an asshole don't be shocked when we don't get super jazzed to see you!
- Show us you can commit to something longer than a 2 year cell phone plan. Get a plant, get a dog, or just spend time with your siblings and show us you like each other. If you can't do that, don't date. Just go find a hookup - I don't have the time to teach you to be a man.
Great meeting you today. Nothing like picking up a new friend at a tire store! I have three horses and would love a riding buddy. Your comments to boys make me laugh. Since I have recently been on a dating bender- let me add a few more:
ReplyDelete1. If we agree to be friends with benefits and then you decide I am too nice of a girl for that- dummy- that's what friend's with benefits are for.
2. If you say you don't care if I see other people' "We've only been on a few dates." and then get pissed when you find out I saw a different man in between the nights I saw you- grow up - ask for what you want and be honest with yourself.
3. Please do not show up at my house uninvited when we have only had a date or two- you might not like what you see- wait a month at least and confirm we are in a committed relationship!
4. Please don't act excited when I mention I am losing some weight lately. I don't know you well enough yet or appreciate the impression given that you would like me to be thinner.
5. I have dogs. Please don't insist dogs are not a problem and then the first time you visit ask me to keep them outside.
6. You must put the toilet seat down if you use my bathroom.
7. You can't possibly love me within a few dates and saying it will not get you laid.